Frequently Asked Questions
What is a Death Doula?
A Death Doula, or End of Life Doula, or Death Midwife is a non-medical and holistic practitioner who guides individuals and their families through the dying process by way of presence, support, advocacy, education, and companionship. Just as birth doulas support mothers birthing a new life, a death doula supports individuals leaving this life into the next.
How are they paid?
EOLDs are compensated for their services in varying ways. Some are paid by the hour, some offer a sliding scale, and some make other arrangements depending on the types of services provided, whether they are on-call, staying overnight, traveling great distances, or other concerns. In most cases, the individual or family contracts directly with the EOLD; however, as more and more hospice and palliative care organizations are utilizing doulas, this may vary. At this time, we know of no third-party reimbursement for EOL doula care.
How do EOLDs train?
Many EOLDs obtain their training through an EOLD training program, of which there are many in the US and elsewhere. Some training programs are offered online, some are solely in-person, and some are a hybrid of both approaches. In addition, some EOLDs have obtained their training through other end-of-life-related educational offerings, hospice volunteer training, or through practical experience by serving in their community for years or by working in other related professions.
Why would I need a Death Doula?
Death Doulas are a calming and reassuring presence with knowledge of the death process and a compassionate resource for families who may be overwhelmed and grieving at the impending death of their loved one. Death Doulas offer a variety of services to assist in the transition of dying but are first and foremost a grounding, reliable, knowledgeable, and comforting presence during a most emotional time.
Do you replace hospice or medical care?
No. I work alongside hospice and medical teams. My role is to support the emotional, relational, and human aspects of this experience—not to provide medical care.
Do you travel to provide services?
Yes. I offer in-person end-of-life doula services within approximately 30 miles / 45 minutes of Danville/Martinsville, Virginia. Travel beyond this area may be available on a limited, case-by-case basis depending on the type and duration of services. Virtual support is available regardless of location.
Do you offer virtual services?
Yes. Consultations, planning support, family guidance, and education can be provided virtually for individuals and families outside my local service area.
How do we know if this support is right for us?
I offer an initial conversation to explore your needs, answer questions, and determine whether my services feel aligned for you and your family. This work is relational, and mutual fit matters.
When should we reach out?
Support can be helpful at any stage—from diagnosis and planning to active dying and after death. Many families reach out earlier than they think, which often allows for a more supported experience.
I support individuals and families navigating serious illness, aging, and end-of-life transitions who are seeking compassionate, non-medical support alongside medical care. I work with those who value presence, clarity, and thoughtful guidance during this season.
My services are well suited for:
Individuals approaching end of life who desire calm, respectful support
Families caring for a loved one and needing guidance, education, or respite
Caregivers seeking emotional support and grounding
Individuals who want help with end-of-life planning and meaningful conversations
Families who want continuity of care before, during, and after death